by Amy Gallo
Özet.
Günümüzde çoğu çalışanın üstesinden gelebileceğinden çok daha fazla işi var. Daha fazla işe hayır demek genellikle akıllıca (ve gereklidir). Öncelikle, sizden yeni bir şey yapmanız istendiğinde zaman, çaba ve fırsat maliyetlerini dikkatlice tartın. Talebi geri çevirmeniz gerekiyorsa, iş arkadaşınıza saygı ve empati duyduğunuzu ifade edin. İstedikleri şeyi neden yapamayacağınıza dair net ama kısa bir açıklama yapın ve projenin tamamını üstlenmeden yardımcı olabileceğiniz küçük bir yol olan bir can simidi sunmayı düşünün. Örneğin, iş arkadaşınızın fikirleri için bir danışma noktası olarak hizmet edebilir veya görevi yerine getirecek başka bir kişi bulmasına yardımcı olabilirsiniz. Ayrıca beden dilinizin nazik ama kesin reddinizi desteklediğinden emin olun. Kıpırdanırsanız veya sesiniz kararsızsa, isteksiz görünebilirsiniz. Son olarak, talepleri geri çevirme konusunda daha iyi olmak için pratik yapmanız gerekebilir. Ne söylemeyi planladığınızı yazabilir ve farklı senaryolarla nasıl başa çıkacağınızı hayal edebilirsiniz. Tatsız olsa da, şimdi hayır demek, daha sonra neden vazgeçtiğinizi açıklamaktan çok daha kolaydır.Ocak ayı neredeyse bitti. Birçok profesyonel gibi ben de bu ayı 2017’de neleri başarmak istediğimi düşünmek için kullandım. Hedef listemi kısa ve net tutmaya çalıştım, ancak yıla işim başımdan aşkın bir şekilde girdim. Bu yeni şeyleri üstlenmek için nasıl yer açacağım? İşte burada önemli bir beceri devreye giriyor: hayır demek.
Çoğu insanın çalışma haftasına sığdırabileceğinden çok daha fazla yapacak işi vardır. En akıllı olanlar yapılacaklar listelerini sürekli olarak yeniden önceliklendirir. (Bu makalede hangi hedef ve görevlere öncelik verileceğine, hangilerinin önceliklerinin artırılacağına, hangilerinin devredileceğine veya hangilerine göz yumulacağına karar vermek için çok faydalı bir 2×2 matris bulunmaktadır). Daha fazla şeyin ya da yanlış şeylerin listenize girmesini engellemek için hayır demeye başlamalısınız.
Hangi stratejiler işe yarar? Hayır deme konusuyla ilgili birkaç HBR makalesine baktım ve işte bulduklarım.
İlk olarak, bir şey yapmanız istendiğinde ani bir tepki vermekten kaçının. Halihazırda maksimum kapasiteyle çalışıyorsanız, gelen talepleri doğrudan reddetmek isteyebilirsiniz. Ancak kendi iyiliğiniz için her bir talebi enine boyuna düşünmeniz faydalı olacaktır. Taleplerin maliyetini dikkatlice tartın – sadece zaman ve emeğinizi değil, fırsat maliyetini de. Sağlıklı bir karar vermenize ve neden hayır dediğinize dair bir gerekçe geliştirmenize yardımcı olması için talebi yıl içindeki önceliklerinizle karşılaştırın.
Bir makale yazmak, bir projeye liderlik etmek veya bir konferansa gitmek gibi gerçekten yapmak istediğiniz şeylere muhtemelen hayır demek zorunda kalacağınızı unutmayın. Bir şeyi yapmak istemeniz, o şeyin buna değeceği anlamına gelmez.
İsteğe hayır dediğinizi unutmayın, kişiye değil. İş arkadaşınıza saygınızı ifade ederek veya sadece kibar davranarak bunu açıkça belirtin. Elbette, iş arkadaşınız geri adım atmanızdan memnun olmayabilir, ancak bu kişisel bir hakaret olmak zorunda değildir, özellikle de iyi bir nedeniniz varsa. “Hayır ”ınızın etkisini kabul edin – bu, iş arkadaşınızın görevi kendisinin yapması veya üstlenecek başka birini bulması gerektiği anlamına gelebilir. İçinde bulunduğu durum için empati kurun.
Sizden istenen şeyi neden yapamayacağınıza dair net ama kısa bir açıklama yaparsanız, “hayır” cevabını kabullenmek çok daha kolay (ve itiraz etmek daha zor) olacaktır. Yapacak çok işiniz olabilir veya bu görevi iyi yapamayacağınızı düşünüyor olabilirsiniz. Sebep ne olursa olsun, dürüst ve açık sözlü olun.
Kişiyle olumlu bir ilişki sürdürmek istiyorsanız, tüm projeyi üstlenmeden yardımcı olabileceğiniz küçük bir yol olan bir can simidi de sunabilirsiniz. Bu görevi başka kimin üstlenebileceğini ya da bu işe nasıl başlayabileceğini düşünmesine yardımcı olabilir misiniz? Projeyi kendisi üstlenirse bir danışma kurulu olarak hizmet edebilir misiniz? Uygunluk durumunuzun değişmesi mümkünse, daha sonraki bir tarihte görevi üstlenip üstlenemeyeceğiniz konusunda kişiyi bilgilendirmeyi teklif edebilirsiniz. Ancak, her durumda olduğu gibi, bunu sadece ciddiyseniz söyleyin.
Konuşma boyunca vücut dilinize dikkat edin. Amacınız “tarafsız bir hayır” mesajı vermektir; tıpkı bir maçta iki tarafa da bir çıkarı olmayan ama her şeyi olduğu gibi söyleyen bir hakem gibi. Sesinizi eşit ve sabit tutmaya çalışın ve kıpırdanmayın, bu rahatsızlığı ifade eder. Aşırı özür dileyici ya da mızmız olursanız, iş arkadaşınıza fikrinizi değiştirebileceğine dair yanlış bir umut verme ve konuşmayı daha da uzatma riskini alırsınız. Kararlı ama nazik olun.
HBR arşivinde bu konuyla ilgili neredeyse her makale önceden pratik yapmayı öneriyor. İster reddetmek için cesaretinizi toplamanız gereken belirli bir talep olsun, ister çok sık evet deme tuzağına düşmüş olun, ne söyleyeceğinizi prova etmek yardımcı olur. Meslektaşınız ısrarcı davranırsa empatinizi nasıl ifade edeceğinizi, gerekçenizi nasıl açıklayacağınızı ve kararlılığınızı nasıl koruyacağınızı düşünün. Ne söyleyeceğinizi yazabilir ve birkaç kez pratik yapabilirsiniz. Farklı senaryolar için hazırlanmayı düşünün: Ya kişi geri adım atar ya da talebin farklı bir versiyonunu isterse? Nasıl tepki vereceksiniz? Peter Bregman tek başınıza bir odaya girmenizi ve 10 kez yüksek sesle “hayır” demenizi öneriyor. “Kulağa çılgınca gelse de… hayır kasınızı geliştirmenin yardımcı olduğunu” söylüyor.
Hayır demeniz gereken kişi yöneticinizse bu durum daha karmaşık olabilir. Bazen yöneticinizi evet demenin ne anlama geleceği konusunda bilgilendirmeniz gerekebilir. Başka bir görev ertelenecek mi? Başka bir projeyle ilgilenmesi için bir üstlenici bulmanız gerekecek mi? Yöneticinizle oturup önceliklerinizi gözden geçirmeniz ve bu yeni talebin neye uyduğunu konuşmanız yardımcı olur. İdeal olarak, yöneticiniz gerekli dengeleri kurmanıza yardımcı olabilir. Karen Dillon’ın HBR IdeaCast’in bu bölümündeki sözleriyle, “İyi bir yönetici kendinizi bunalmış hissetmenizi istememelidir. İyi bir yönetici, sizden tabağınıza eklemenizi isteyecek kadar önemli olan şeylere evet demenin yollarını bulabilmenizi istemelidir.”
Bu bazı insanlar için diğerlerine göre daha kolaydır. Eğer çatışmadan kaçınma eğilimindeyseniz, hayır demek sizi korkutuyor olabilir. Bu kesinlikle benim yapmayı en sevdiğim şey değil, ama ben bunu şu şekilde düşünüyorum: Şimdi hayır demek, daha sonra neden vazgeçtiğinizi açıklamaktan çok daha kolaydır.
Kaynak: https://hbr.org/2017/01/hbrs-best-on-saying-no-to-more-work
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This User Agreement ("Agreement"); was executed between 41 North Business School Eğitim A.Ş.
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• Using the Platform as a database on behalf of any person, to create a recording or directory, to check, update or modify;
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4. CONFIDENTIALITY AND PROTECTION OF PERSONAL DATA
4.1. Your personal data will be processed, collected, used, stored, disclosed, transferred and secured in accordance with the Law on the Protection of Personal Data No. 6698 and any other applicable data protection law by 41 NORTH.
4.2. 41 NORTH and its affiliated companies will collect information about the User's name, surname, gender, date of birth, full address, work and education status, work experience information, cv information, program preferences, e-mail address, phone number, title, city he/she resided in and his/her nationality, payment and invoicing information, internet protocol (IP) address, access date and time to the Platform, the pages he/she accesses when he/she is on the Platform, and the internet address of the website that provides a direct connection to the Platform
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4.5. .41 NORTH processes the User data to ensure the fulfillment of the rights and obligations of both 41 NORTH and the User arising out of this Agreement (based on the agreement), to fulfill our legal obligations arising out of the Law on the Protection of the Consumer and Turkish Code of Obligations in connection to this Agreement, to offer discounts, opportunities, benefits in line with their preferences and likings and send commercial electronic messages upon their approval, as per Law on the Regulation of Electronic Commerce, the Turkish Commercial Code, Law No. 5651 and the Tax Procedure Law (based on the legislation), within the scope of various CRM applications used to increase user satisfaction/commitment, and transfers these data for these purposes. However, 41 NORTH accepts and declares that it will take the required measures to ensure that personal data are processed and protected in accordance with the LPPD.
4.6. 41 NORTH undertakes to take all necessary technical and other measures to protect personal data against unauthorized or illegal processing, loss, destruction or wipe out, and to establish appropriate level of security for the storage of data. 41 NORTH takes the necessary precautions and monitors the systems regularly to prevent unauthorized access to the systems in information collection, storage and processing applications. 41 NORTH restricts access to user data only to employees, contracting parties, intermediaries and other relevant parties who require strict access to this data and have a strict contractual confidentiality obligation.
4.7. Personal data processed for the purposes specified in this Agreement will be anonymized and continue to be used by 41 NORTH when the purpose for processing the data in accordance with Article 7/f.1 of Law No. 6698 ceases to exist, and when the time limits set out by the law have expired in accordance with Article 138 of the Turkish Criminal Code. The User has the right to always delete and revoke his/her consent regarding the processing and use of his/her personal data.
4.8. Pursuant to LPPD, the User has the right;
a. to know whether or not if his/her personal data have been processed.
b. to request information on the procedure, if personal data have been processed,
c. to obtain information on the purpose of processing personal data and find out whether personal data were used as fit for the purpose,
d. to obtain information about the third persons with whom personal data were shared domestically or abroad,
e. to request the correction of personal data that may have been incompletely or inaccurately processed,
f. to request the deletion or destruction of personal data in the event that the reasons for the processing of the personal data have ceased to exist.
g. to require that the above mentioned correction, deletion or destruction to be notified to the third party to whom his/her personal data is transferred, in accordance with Article 7 of the LPPD,
h. to object to the occurrence of an adverse outcome which is detrimental to him/her by the analysis of the processed data exclusively through automated systems
i. to request compensation for damages in the case where damages are sustained as a result of the illegal processing of personal data..
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6. AMENDMENTS TO THE AGREEMENT
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7. FORCE MAJEURE
Events occurring beyond the control of 41 NORTH preventing the 41 North from fulfilling its obligations liabilities under the hereby User Agreement or delaying its fulfillment shall be considered as force majeure such as insurgency, embargo, government intervention, rebellion, invasion, mobilization, strike, lockout, work actions or strikes, cyber attacks, communication problems, infrastructure and internet breakdowns, system improvement and renewal work and breakdowns due to , electricity cuts, fire, explosions, storms, floods, migration, epidemics or other natural disasters , and 41 NORTH cannot be held liable for the non- fulfillment or delay in fulfilling the obligations due to Force Majeure and this situation cannot be deemed as a breach of the hereby User Agreement.
8. GENERAL PROVISIONS
8.1. User accepts that in the case of a dispute which may arise from the hereby User Agreement, 41 NORTH’s official books and commercial records and the e-archive records kept in 41 NORTH’s database and servers, electronic information and computer records will be considered as binding, crucial and exclusive evidence and that this clause will be considered as an evidential contract in terms of the 193rd clause of the Civil Courts Law no.6100.
8.2. The hereby User Agreement will be exclusively governed by the Laws of the Republic of Turkey. Istanbul Consumer Arbitration Board and Istanbul (Caglayan) Courts and Enforcement Office shall have jurisdiction over the settlement of all kinds of dispute arising from the hereby User Agreement or related to this hereby User Agreement
8.3. 41 NORTH will contact the User via the e-mail address, via telephone or by sending an / SMS, details of which were provided by the User during the membership process. The User is responsible for keeping their e-mail address and telephone number up to date.
8.4. This hereby User Agreement constitutes the entire agreement between the Parties in relation to the matter. If any term or other provision of this User Agreement is determined by a court of competent jurisdiction to be invalid, illegal or incapable of being enforced, all other terms, provisions and conditions of this User Agreement shall nevertheless remain in full force and effect.
8.5. User cannot completely or partially assign his/her rights or obligations specified in the hereby User Agreement without the prior written consent of 41 NORTH.
8.6. Failure to exercise or perform any right granted under this User Agreement by either Party shall not be construed as a waiver of such right or shall not prevent future exercise or performance of such right.
As of the 8th clause onwards, this hereby User Agreement, will enter into force as from the moment the User has read and acknowledged each provision in full and approved it in the electronic environment.